Sunday, December 14, 2008

Remember Your Worth!

I am happier now than I have ever been. My life is far from perfect, and I definitely have "those days", but I carry an inner peace almost constantly now that used to be a fleeting experience for me. I've been pondering recently about what happened to help bring about this change. What was it that made the difference? And I came to the realization that I'm finally starting to understand who I am. I don't have the insecurities I once had that held me back from true happiness. I used to worry a lot about what other people thought about me. I think part of that came from my heavy involvement in musical theatre growing up. In many ways it was a great blessing, but one negative result I think was that my self esteem took a hit every time I faced rejection (which happened a lot!). But as I've matured spiritually, the basic truth that I am God's own child finally sunk in and I found true joy. This is a principle that we are taught in our church from early childhood. But somehow, all those years growing up, it never REALLY sunk into my heart.

There is one line in a book, "6 Events" by Stephen R. Covey that really resonated with me and helped me come to this awareness... "My sense of self-worth is simply not based on other people's perceptions of me." It's such a simple but powerful thought. It's so liberating to know that other people's judgements of me have absolutely no bearing on my worth. So instead of being preoccupied with measuring up to other's expectations, or comparing myself with others, I can focus my energies on becoming who God intended me to be. I mean- praise and compliments are nice, but they don't mean as much now. I'm more concerned with what God knows about me, which is the depth of my heart, other than what other people think about me- which is superficial and constantly fluctuates.

I believe our security in life should be based on the fact that we are God's children. Each of us. We are not simply his creation, but we literally one generation away from Deity. The wonder of it!! I'm still sensitive, and aware of people's judgements, but now my sense of worth isn't as affected every time I get rejected or criticized. Also, there is no need to compare or compete with anyone else because I realize we ALL have divine worth and potential that is far beyond any human measurement.

I taught this principle in a lesson to the young women at church once, and used a powerful object lesson. This object lesson was not my idea, I found it online on So I held up a $100 bill and said, "Who would like this $100 bill?" Of course all their hands went up. I passed it around the room, and they all oohed and awed, and when it got back to me I proceeded to crumple it up in my hand. Then I asked, "Who still wants it?" And all their hands went up. Then I said, "Ok, well, what if I do this? And I dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with my shoe. I picked it up again, it was all dirty and crumpled and I asked again, "Who still wants it?" Still their hands went up. So I said, "You girls have learned an important lesson... no matter what I did to this $100 bill, you still wanted it because it didn't decrease in value. It was still worth $100.
Sometimes in our lives we are dropped, and we feel dirty and crumpled by the mistakes we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or will happen, no matter what anyone says or does to you, you will never lose your value in your Heavenly Father's eyes. To Him you are priceless. Then we went on to talk about their divine nature, and at the end of the lesson I passed around these handouts... (in case you were wondering... the bill was fake ;))

Remember your worth!

The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we are but by WHOSE we are!
We never lose our worth!
“All human beings—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny” (The Family: A Proclamation to the World)

I think teenagers especially need us to affirm them of their divine potential. It's such a tough age, especially these days with all the false messages about their worth that they're bombarded with- DAILY. The world would have them believe that their worth is conditional- based on their looks, wealth, popularity, or other worldly standard. And they're so impressionable to those messages because they're developing their own identity and independence. So they need us to teach that they are unconditionally precious in His sight. Our little children need it too. They need to see our faces light up when they come into the room, and they need us to believe in them... especially when they don't deserve it.

So this understanding has been such a blessing in my life, but the best part about this change wasn't so much about the awareness I had about myself, but that I began to see everyone else in a new light. When I accepted this truth about myself, I could recognize and fully appreciate that everyone else is God's own child too... unique and precious to him, with a distinct and important mission to perform on this earth. I feel a greater love for everyone I meet, even strangers. And I have a greater desire to help people because I see them for who they really are. I am so grateful for the gospel of Jesus Christ. I feel so blessed to have been taught these truths from a young age, and I hope to instill them in my own children. Hopefully it won't take them over 20 years to begin to actually "get it!"

Celeste and Benny 1/07

I am a child of God, and He has sent me here, has given me an earthly home with parents kind and dear. Lead me, guide me walk beside me, help me find the way. Teach me all that I should do to live with Him someday (boom boom). ;)


Dana said...

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

Nelson Mandela

Jill said...

Excellent post. Thanks for your inspiring words! We are God's children, we are royalty.

Anonymous said...

Nicole, did you write this for me??? It's so easy to look at ourselves only as the product of the world or our shortcomings. I appreciate that you grasp each day with a love and acceptance, that that you share your testimony and understanding so freely. I love and admire you so much!!! :) Gina

Mel said...

I heart the hundred dollar bill object lesson. that is brilliant. thanks for a beautiful post. you are always so inspiring.

Reilly Faith said...

This was an awesome post! It takes years to recover from issues about confidence and knowing who you are and your divine potential. And Boy it is a hard road, but possible! I loved the nelson mandela quote from Dana! If you ever need help with YW I would be more than willing to share any experiences I have had. I wish there would have been more lessons on Worth when I was younger... would have helped me for sure!


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